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The royal road to self-confidence
Step by step into confidence
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We all desire self-confidence.
We want it in our work, in our relationships, and in our lives. Yet, the challenge with self-confidence is that we often try to attain it directly.
We believe we can think ourselves into it, repeating mantras like, "You can do it." But self-confidence doesn’t come from mere affirmations. It is a by-product—a result of consistently choosing courage.
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Courage is the key
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You cannot choose self-confidence outright, but you can choose courage. When we fixate on self-confidence, we lose sight of the true decision before us: the decision to be courageous.
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Confidence in your work
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If you want self-confidence in your work, ask yourself, “Where can I choose courage to achieve what I want?”
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Confidence in your relationships
If you want self-confidence in your relationships, ask, “Where can I choose courage to create the relationships I desire?”
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Confidence in every area of your life
If you want self-confidence in your life, ask, “Where are the opportunities to be courageous in pursuit of the life I envision?”
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Choose courage; confidence will take care of itself
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Stop focusing on self-confidence itself. Instead, seek out moments to choose courage. Self-confidence will follow.
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"Self-confidence is the result of a successfully survived risk."
—Jack Gibb
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"Action is a great restorer and builder of confidence. Inaction is not only the result, but the cause, of fear. Perhaps the action you take will be successful; perhaps different action or adjustments will have to follow. But any action is better than no action at all."
—Norman Vincent Peale (1898-1993, American Christian Reformed pastor, speaker, author)
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"Confidence is courage at ease."
—Daniel Maher