Undoing perfectionism

Prerequisites: undoing fear and choosing courage

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What is perfectionism?

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Perfectionism is either:

• a resisted fear that if you don't do something good enough, then someone/others will blame you and/or be disappointed in you 

• and/or a resisted fear that if you don't do something good enough, then you might not get the results that you want.

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Trying to be perfect when you're just starting is a good way to prevent yourself from starting

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Remember: Anything worth doing is worth doing badly (rather than not doing at all). If you insist on "perfection" or "as good as someone else," especially when you're a novice, you're shooting yourself in the foot.

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The first step to undo perfectionism

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Use undoing fear with either one or both of the following expressions: 

• "Holy cats and jeepers creepers, I am so scared that others will blame me (or be disappointed in me) if I don't do this good enough!"

• "Holy cats and jeepers creepers, I am so scared that I won't get the results I want if I don't do this good enough!"

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Continue with the other three steps of choosing courage to undo perfectionism

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The first step of choosing courage is always the undoing fear process. To consolidate your practice of undoing perfectionism, continue with the other three steps of choosing courage. 

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As you apply all four steps of choosing courage to instances where you notice you are being perfectionistic, your habit of perfectionism will fade away.

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Happy results

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• You're be happier.

• Life will be easier and more fun.

• You'll have better relationships.

• And you'll get more accomplished.